"coincidental; unexpected: It was ironic that I was seated next to my ex-husband at the dinner." - dictionary.com
Thursday, I drove to my home town. An annual meeting is held at a resort in my home town.
The same resort was the location of my wedding reception - 15 years ago - and where my now former husband and I spent our first night as a married couple.
It's a nice place. On the water. Golf course. Beautiful.
It was fall then. It is fall now.
We are no longer married - to each other. He has since remarried a woman from my high school class. A much better match. She's a delightful person. He's a great guy. A good couple, I suspect - from afar.
She is pregnant with their first child. Due in October.
Last night as I tried to sleep, I got this sense that I needed to get up and check FB. To check their pages (I'm not friends with them on FB although I can see their info. The former husband and I do FB message occasionally about things - once you have married, you are always connected even if you didn't have kids and divorce. I needed his current mailing address last spring as I applied to foster/adopt. Hence, a FB message last spring. Anyway...)
I got up. I logged on and sure enough, their SON was born on Monday of this week, a few weeks early. They'd waited to find out the gender until his birth. I know that feeling. That was the case with G and Z.
There were 2 pics (what is wrong with people! Only 2 pics!)...one of the little guy "R" and one of the baby and his Daddy...that man to whom I was once married. It looked good. My first reaction was a big smile. No pics of Mom. I'm sure she is elated!
Things that I find ironic:
--I learn of the birth of my former husband's first child while lying in bed in the resort where we celebrated our wedding - almost exactly 15 years ago (next month). A rainy day/night. Fog horn blowing in the distance.
--Then, I realize that their wedding anniversary is 8/11 - the day the twins arrived. They'd been married 3 years EXACTLY on the day I welcomed twins into my family. And, one of the twins has THE name we'd discussed naming a daughter, if we ever had one!
--They announced the birth of their child on Tuesday of this week. I announced the twins on Wednesday. We have ~30 FB friends in common between us. I'm sure a few of them saw our posts just 1 day apart as a funny coincidence. I find it odd. I'd probably have waited to announce the twins if I'd known they'd just announced their first born the day before. Oh well.
--I remember him saying years ago that he wasn't sure he ever wanted kids. But, if he had to have one, it would be one. A girl. Before he was 30.
To summarize: it's a boy. He's a first time father at age 40. Who knows if there will be more.
Irony. Odd. Life. Never goes as you plan. So happy for them.
Wondering if it would be odd to send them a gift. I'm sooo happy for them - and his parents. Finally, a first grand child.
All the best little "R". May you be loved, give love and know Love in this world! Blessings to you, G, D and R...
Thursday, I drove to my home town. An annual meeting is held at a resort in my home town.
The same resort was the location of my wedding reception - 15 years ago - and where my now former husband and I spent our first night as a married couple.
It's a nice place. On the water. Golf course. Beautiful.
It was fall then. It is fall now.
We are no longer married - to each other. He has since remarried a woman from my high school class. A much better match. She's a delightful person. He's a great guy. A good couple, I suspect - from afar.
She is pregnant with their first child. Due in October.
Last night as I tried to sleep, I got this sense that I needed to get up and check FB. To check their pages (I'm not friends with them on FB although I can see their info. The former husband and I do FB message occasionally about things - once you have married, you are always connected even if you didn't have kids and divorce. I needed his current mailing address last spring as I applied to foster/adopt. Hence, a FB message last spring. Anyway...)
I got up. I logged on and sure enough, their SON was born on Monday of this week, a few weeks early. They'd waited to find out the gender until his birth. I know that feeling. That was the case with G and Z.
There were 2 pics (what is wrong with people! Only 2 pics!)...one of the little guy "R" and one of the baby and his Daddy...that man to whom I was once married. It looked good. My first reaction was a big smile. No pics of Mom. I'm sure she is elated!
Things that I find ironic:
--I learn of the birth of my former husband's first child while lying in bed in the resort where we celebrated our wedding - almost exactly 15 years ago (next month). A rainy day/night. Fog horn blowing in the distance.
--Then, I realize that their wedding anniversary is 8/11 - the day the twins arrived. They'd been married 3 years EXACTLY on the day I welcomed twins into my family. And, one of the twins has THE name we'd discussed naming a daughter, if we ever had one!
--They announced the birth of their child on Tuesday of this week. I announced the twins on Wednesday. We have ~30 FB friends in common between us. I'm sure a few of them saw our posts just 1 day apart as a funny coincidence. I find it odd. I'd probably have waited to announce the twins if I'd known they'd just announced their first born the day before. Oh well.
--I remember him saying years ago that he wasn't sure he ever wanted kids. But, if he had to have one, it would be one. A girl. Before he was 30.
To summarize: it's a boy. He's a first time father at age 40. Who knows if there will be more.
Irony. Odd. Life. Never goes as you plan. So happy for them.
Wondering if it would be odd to send them a gift. I'm sooo happy for them - and his parents. Finally, a first grand child.
All the best little "R". May you be loved, give love and know Love in this world! Blessings to you, G, D and R...
2 comments:
Oooh, that IS all a little crazy! I'm glad you're taking the time to process it all, and that you're okay with him being a daddy again. Praying for you, friend, as your family grows also!
I'm just wondering about G and her part in this.I would think she was his first child..first grandchild.I thought he/they was still in her life.It's funny how things can change so swiftly.I know the feeling..I separated in June 09 & we've both moved on long ago.I find things ironic like this often.I'm not being nosey..just thinking about G.Of course I know she doesn't lack any love.I've never met you or your family but the love pours out in your writing & pictures of all! Take Care,Shannon (mama to Jaden & Darius)
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